TED英文演说-茶和同意中英文演讲稿.docxVIP

第 第 PAGE 1 页 Tea and Consent 茶和同意 If youre still struggling with consent just imagine instead of initiating sex, youre making them a cup of tea. You say: hey, would you like a cup of tea?and they go: oh my god, I would LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!then you know they want a cup of tea. 如果你还在纠结，对方怎样才算是同意跟你啪啪啪不妨换个方式。想象自己要给Ta泡一杯茶，比如你问Ta: 嘿~ 想来一杯茶么？而对方说: 哇！我超想喝茶的，谢谢你呀！那就很清楚了，人家确实想喝茶。 If you say: hey, would you like a cup of tea?and theyre like: ummm, you know, Im not really sure…then you can make them a cup of tea or not but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they dont drink it then... and this is the important bit, dont make them drink it. 如果你问: 嘿~ 想来杯茶嘛？而对方的反应是: 额..那个..我不太确定欸你当然可以选择给Ta泡茶，也可以不泡。不过请注意，就算你泡了茶，别人也不一定会喝，要是对方真的没喝...那么重点就来了，不要强迫别人喝下去。 Just because you made it doesnt mean you are entitled to watch them drink it. And If they say: No, thank you then dont make them tea. At all. Just dont make them tea, dont make them drink tea, dont get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. 就算你把茶泡好了，也不代表你就有权利，要求别人喝掉这杯茶。如果对方回复说: 不用了，谢谢那你就别泡茶了，彻底别泡，别给人家泡茶，也别逼人家喝茶，别为了喝茶这事儿而生气动怒。 They just dont want tea, OK? They might say: Yes please, thats kind of you!and then when the tea arrives, the actually dont want the tea at all. Sure, thats kind of annoying as youve gone to all the effort of making the tea but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea. 对方就是不想喝茶，可以嘛？有人可能会这样回复: 喝茶? 好呀! 你可真好啊结果等你泡好茶端来后，那人又推却说不想喝了。没错，这种确实很烦。毕竟你辛辛苦苦，花时间费工夫去给Ta泡茶。但请记住，对方仍然没有义务要喝下你这杯茶。 They did want tea, now they dont. Some people change their mind in the time it takes to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk. And its OK for people to change their mind and you are still not entitled to watch them drink it. 之前想喝茶，现在又不想喝。就在你烧水、沏茶、加牛奶的时候，对方就这么改了主意。一个人改主意，再正常不过了。你依然没有权利，强迫别人把茶给喝了。 And If they are unconscious dont make them tea. Unconscious people dont want tea, and they cant answer the question - Do you want tea?, because theyre are unconscious. OK, maybe they were conscious when you aske