高中英语选修八北师大版课件：Unit+23　Conflict+23.1.pptVIP

Unit 23 Conflict 典句欣赏理解诱思【文章导语】 在这个世界上,没有一个父母是不爱自己的孩子的,但是父母和孩子之间也经常会因为很多问题而发生冲突……For many parents,raising a teenager is like fighting a long war,but years go by without any clear winner.Like a border conflict between neighbouring countries,the parent-teen war is about boundaries:Where is the line between what I control and what you do? 典句欣赏理解诱思Both sides want peace,but neither feels it has any power to stop the conflict.In part,this is because neither is willing to admit any responsibility for starting it.From the parents’ point of view,the only cause of their fight is their adolescents’ complete unreasonableness.And of course,the teens see it in exactly the same way,except oppositely.Both feel trapped.In this article,I’ll describe three no-win situations that commonly arise between teens and parents and then suggest some ways out of the trap.The first no-win situation is quarrels over unimportant things. 典句欣赏理解诱思Examples include the color of the teen’s hair,the cleanliness of the bedroom,the preferred style of clothing,the child’s failure to eat a good breakfast before school,or his tendency to sleep until noon on the weekends.Second,blaming.The goal of a blaming battle is to make the other admit that his bad attitude is the reason why everything goes wrong.Third,needing to be right.It doesn’t matter what the topic is—politics,the laws of physics,or the proper way to break an egg—the point of these arguments is to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong,for both wish to be considered an authority—someone who actually knows something—and therefore to command respect.Unfortunately,as long as parents and teens continue to assume that they know more than the other,they’ll continue to fight these battles forever and never make any real progress. 典句欣赏理解诱思译文对于很多父母来说,抚养一个青少年就像是一场长期的战争,但是数年过去了,没有明显的赢家。就像是相邻国家的边界冲突,父母和孩子之间的战争就是关于边界的问题:在我控制的东西和你做的事情之间的界限是哪里?双方都想要和平,但是双方都感觉没有力量来终止这场冲突。一部分原因是,双方都不愿意承认是自己引起的冲突。从父母的角度,他们战争的唯一原因是孩子完全的不可理喻。当然,青少年也这样认为,不过和父母的观点正好相反。双