积极心理学课件1504-07-perfection上课讲义.pptVIP

积极心理学课件1504-07-perfection

Learntofailorfailtolearn

Crisis(WeiJi)DangerandOpportunity

ThePathofFailureAge22:LostjobAge23:DefeatedforstatelegislatureAge24:FailedinbusinessAge27:NervousbreakdownAge34:RanforcongressanddefeatedAge39:DefeatedagainAge46:RanforsenateanddefeatedAge47:DefeatedfornominationforvicepresidentAge50:DefeatedagainforsenateAge51:16thUSPresident

“Freedomisnotworthhavingifitdoesnotconnotefreedomtoerr.” MohandasGandhi

“Theimportantworkofmovingtheworldforwarddoesnotwaittobedonebyperfectmen.”GeorgeEliot

ThomasWatsonSr.IBMAmyEdmondson(1999)“PsychologicalSafety”“Ifyouwanttoincreaseyoursuccessrate,doubleyourfailurerate.” ThomasWatsonSr.“OriginsofGenius”(Simonton,1999)Failyourwaytosuccess(Klem,1997)

Perfectionismisanincapacitatingfearoffailurethatpermeatesourlives,especiallythoseareasthatwecareaboutmost.Itisanapproach,acognitiveandemotionalschema,thatweholdtowardthejourneyofourlives,towardtheprocessofgettingfrompointAtopointB.

PerfectionVs.ExcellenceCharacteristicsDefensiveOpentoSuggestionsHalfEmptyHalfFullOverGeneralizeRealisticNoSelf-AcceptanceUnconditionalAcceptanceStaticDynamicPerfectionExcellenceFearoffailureFailureasfeedbackFocusonDestinationJourneyandDestination

PerfectionVs.ExcellenceConsequencesTemporaryReliefLastingSatisfactionInevitableFailurePossibilityofSuccessWastestimeAppropriateTimeAllocationPronetodisordersHealthyApproachHurtsSelf-EsteemContinuousImprovementHarmsRelationshipsAllowsforGrowthAnxiety/StressCreativeTensionPerfectionExcellencePerformance?LessPainMoreGain

LessPainMoreGain??*@#!!#??SustainableapproachtogrowthProcrastinationHigherlevelsofself-confidenceLearntofailorfailtolearn‘TheLuckFactor’(Wiseman,2003)Creativity(Simonton,1999)80/20Rule(Pareto’sPrinciple)Increaseinflowexperiences(Csiksz