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When Two Complete Worlds Come Together When Alejandro and I met in New York 10 years ago, we fell in love quickly. But we knew we could never end up together. Were from two different worlds, we would say.I laugh when I think about that now. A marriage, 4- and 5-year-old sons, and a cross-country move to Los Angeles later, that vast gap we once saw as an implacable barrier to our relationship is a foggy memory. The fact that he is from Uruguay and I am American no longer seems like a big deal: He became a U.S. citizen two years ago, and my Spanish is now good enough that people sometimes mistake me for a South American. Hes Jewish and Im Catholic, but we agreed early on that well raise our kids Jewish as long as we can have a Christmas tree.Far more troubling than either of those divisions was the fact that I grew up in the privileged bubble of the American upper middle class, while Alejandro came from a family that struggled to cling to the lower rungs of the middle class in Latin America, and eventually fell off them. When I met him, he was working as a moving man in the South Bronx, a job he did for nearly a decade, to support himself and his parents back home. What he called my princess traits horrified him, while the harsh reality of his life scared me. Today, I am so proud that my husband, who owns his own trucking company, is a true self-made man.Alejandro isnt particularly philosophical, but I see much wisdom in a refrain of his: Every person is a complete world. We may be more dramatically different from each other than many couples, but our union illustrates the drama of any marriage: Its always a merging of two distinct worlds. And no matter how seamlessly and harmoniously blended those two worlds become, there are always reminders that once upon a time, you were like two distant planets, spinning on their own axes.And thats what this column will focus on-how two people can unite to make all the choices, plans and decisions marriage requires, even