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Get What You Really Want in Bed 　　Forget bedroom acrobatics―what he really craves is direction. And, says sex coach Rachel Morris, if you don’t ask, you don’t get... 　　 　　“When you aren’t getting the sex you want, what do you do about it? According to hundreds of women I’ve interviewed over the years, the answer is anything that doesn’t actually involve asking for it. Instead, we collect tricks and techniques from experts and friends―and then we’ll try anything from non-verbal sexual feedback meant to flatter his unconscious, to manipulative mind games that are meant to ‘train’ him. 　　But why make the process so complicated? Simply telling him what you like and where you like it is a huge turn-on for most men. What they’re after is great sex―and what’s more, they’re desperate to know how to give it to you, too. 　　Sounds simple enough. The problem is, it seems that ‘asking for it’ is one box on the how-to-getwhat-you-want checklist that remains sheepishly unticked by many of us. 　　But no matter how uncomfortable and awkward it seems, we have to find our voices because, when it comes to communicating with men, it’s the most effective tool we have. Want to know the reason why? Read on to know more...” 　　Most sex-talk issues fall into one of these four categories: 　　Being afraid to say what you want. 　　Thinking that you shouldn’t have to say it―he should just know. 　　Saying it, and then feeling frustrated when nothing changes. 　　Feeling confused as to what you want in the first place. If one of these sounds like you, here’s my take on how to get the sex you want... 　　1 　　“I’m afraId to say It” 　　This is by far the biggest reason we don’t speak up. You need to work out just what’s driving that fear... Fear of looking stupid: It’s uncomfortable to put sex into words because it’s not something we do daily. We worry that we’re going to sound like cheap porn, but that’s actually a great place to start. Imagine that you’re doing a porn voice-over―say the words out loud t