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做父亲最常见的5个误区 1.No Temper? 不要发脾气 It is really tempting to lose temper to kids especially if it becomes habitual. However, don’t give punishment if you are angry. You may commit mistakes that you would regret for the rest of your life. There are things that we can’t control especially if we are at the peak of our emotion. In fact, you could even curse your kid, shout at them unintentionally and even physically beat or spank them. It’s wise that you go out in the situation, take a deep breath, and relax. Cool yourself down until you feel that you can think and speak calmly. Children will not respond the way you want them to, but if they will it’s all because of fear instead of obeying . 很容易对着孩子发脾气，又尤其是已成为习惯之后。但是要是你还在生气，不要处罚孩子。因为你可能会犯下一辈子都会后悔的错。尤其是在情绪极度不好的时候，很多事情是我们无法控制的。事实上，你可能会咒骂他们，无意中冲他们大吼，甚至是体罚孩子。这种情况下出去，深呼吸，让自己平静下来才是明智的。让你自己好好冷静，直到你认为你可以很平静的思考，说话的时候为止。孩子回应你的方式通常都不是你想要的那种方式，但是要是他们是那样的，也可能是因为害怕，而不是服从。 2.Physical Punishment 体罚 This one of the common punishments being given by fathers. In fact, they are known as authoritative and bold compared to mothers that are soft-hearted, which is totally understandable. Mothers have soft spot to their children since they are the one who carried them to their wombs for 9 months. It does not mean that fathers do not have a soft spot in their heart in giving punishment. There are situations that you can do it, but not too often. Later on, they would not be afraid at all to commit mistakes because they become used to it. 这是爸爸们常常给予的处罚方式。实际上，爸爸们被认为有权威，和母亲的胆大心细是不一样的，这也是可以理解的。孩子是目前怀胎九个月生下来的，她肯定会很心疼。但是这也并不能说明父亲在处罚孩子的时候就不心疼。某些情况下，你可以适当的体罚孩子，但是不要经常都这样。否则以后孩子就会因为害怕被体罚而不敢承认错误。 3.Inconsistency in Giving Disciplines 不坚持执行规则 Once you give rules at home, you should stick to it. The next time you find yourself in a situation that you caught your daughter or son doing the same mistake, impose, and implement the consequence that you have stated so they will learn from it and they will not do it again. 要是你在家里立下了规矩，那你就应该坚持执行。否则下次你会发现在某一情况下，你也和你的孩子犯了一样的