萨提亚家庭治疗模式 摘录（Excerpts from the Satir family therapy model）.docVIP

萨提亚家庭治疗模式 摘录（Excerpts from the Satir family therapy model） We look at how the world can be assessed through four aspects: how can we define a relationship; how can we define a person; how can we explain an event; and we have to change the attitude. In the hierarchical model, there is only one relationship: some people are at an advantage, others are at a disadvantage. This is an arrangement of obedience. Hierarchical relationships are often described as the following types of roles: fathers, children, bosses, workers, teachers, students. For those who use relationships to achieve the purpose of controlling others, others are individuals who conform to obedience. Peoples growth is still faced with many external expectations and contrasts. Standards and judgments exist at the interpersonal, political, and family levels. When we accept the view that our values come from the external self, we will try to remain obedient for a long time and hope to receive someone elses acceptance through our own clothes. Those based on the dominant obedience model, those who insist on obedience, and those who seek the only right answer, do not like change. People sometimes prefer a familiar, dysfunctional way of doing things without choosing an unknown improvement or a comfortable model. Living posture Please Courting is one of the four main responses when we feel threatened by our own existence. When we please others, we ignore our feelings of value, surrender our rights to others, and nod our heads to everything. They are given full respect for the people and situations they associate with, but they do not care about what he or she really feels. To please, often in a pleasing manner, and therefore receive a high degree of acceptance in most cultures and families. However, please with the others and make a distinct attempt. At the expense of self value, it negates our self-esteem and transmits the message that we are unimportant. When we please others, even if you dont feel good, will