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10 Truths My Children Taught MeSELF-IMPROVEMENT is a term that inflames my desire to be a better person about as much as bright yellow SpongeBob underpants stoke my libido. Yet I’m always aiming for my “personal best” by reading spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle, doing Kabbalah workshops or chanting in Sanskrit. These days I rely on my kids, who daily offer me a crash course in self-improvement. Here are some ways in which being a parent has helped me to become a better human being:自强是一个术语，激励我渴望成为一个更好的人和明亮的黄色海绵宝宝内裤激起我的性欲一样。然而，我一直瞄准我的“个人最好的”，通过阅读精神老师Eckhart Tolle，做喀巴拉工作坊或诵读梵文。这些天我依靠我的孩子，每天给我提供一个自我完善速成班。以下是一些作为父母帮助我成为一个更好的人的方法： Ⅰ.Being present 活在当下 My son never moved on from the Terrible Twos. For years I tried time-outs, consequences, punishments,rewards,naughty corners---even shouting. I read the books;nothing worked.I was all out of solutions. Next tantrum,I didn’t react ,recoil from his screaming,or judge it .I just sat with it.Beyond the noise of his anger ,I sensed a deeper ,unspoken frustration. Suddenly I got it --he needed my help to contain his anger ,which was much too big for a small person on his own to hold.As I watched his emotions flare and subside ,I was reminded of a meditation technique to dissolve physical pain or emotional trauma.Staying with what is difficult is a form of deepened presence,which I’ve learned through the Tantrum Meditation.我儿子从来没有从那可怕的两岁出来。多年来，我尝试暂停休息时间，后果，惩罚，奖励，顽皮角落-甚至叫喊。我读了这些方面的书，都没起作用，我完全没有办法了。下一次发脾气，我没有对他的尖叫有所反应，或者判断它。我只是坐在那里。除了愤怒的声音之外，我感觉到一个更深层次的，无言的沮丧。突然我明白了--他需要我的帮助来控制他的愤怒，这对一个小的人来说太大了。我看着他的情绪起伏，我想起了一个冥想的技巧来化解身体的疼痛或情绪创伤。坦然面对困难是一种深化的存在形式，这是我从发怒冥想学到的。Ⅱ.Being in control 自我控制“Over my dead body,” I said when,at nine ,my son begged to play rugby.“You will lose a tooth,break a bone ,become a paraplegic,” I explained.“One game only,” I conceded,“and if you get even a scratch,no more.” Well,that boy was so fast ,so proficient(how did he even know what to do with the ball?)that he was crowned Man of the Match .The following weeke