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Hitting the Big Time with Small Talk How to find the extrovert in you. Here are some tips on the art of small talk. By Lybi Ma, published on October 01, 2005 - last reviewed on October 01, 2012 Making casual conversation doesnt come naturally for me. In fact, the idea of talking to a stranger at a cocktail party makes me want to hide behind the ferns: Dont mind me, Im not really here. Its not just me—for any born introvert, making small talk can be downright excruciating. But casual conversation can lead to important relationships. Three years ago, I met my fiance at the airport. If I hadnt mustered the courage to say hello, some other woman would have hopped in line right in front of me, so to speak. The truth is, anything can happen when you stick your neck out. You might meet a new client, stumble on your next roommate, or meet a future friend. You just never know. So how do you cultivate a more extroverted you? We all hope that the other person will assume the burden of a conversation. But master conversationalist and The Fine Art of Small Talk author Debra Fine says that its up to you to take on the responsibility of making others feel comfortable. Here are a few pointers to get you talking: The Polite Introduction When youre introducing people—or if youre introducing yourself—say names slowly and offer information. This is Larry, he just got a new job as an urban planner here in town. Or you can point out common interests: Both of you are Red Sox fans. What Was Her Name Again? She said her name and it flew out of your brain a nanosecond later. It will do you no good to forget the name of the person youre talking to. So open your ears and really listen. One trick is repeating the name of the person a few times. Be Prepared Formulate a few questions that will generate interest. For example, think about the days current events. Make sure to keep up to date with the daily paper or tune in to your radio station and study up—be it earthquakes, hurricanes