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TED正能量演讲稿 　　Listeningisanactiveskill.Whereashearingispassive,listeningissomethingthatwehavetoworkat.Itsa　　relationshipwithsound.Andyetitsaskillthatnoneofusaretaught.Forexample,haveyoueverconsideredthattherearelisteningpositions,placesyoucanlistenfrom?Herearetwoofthem.Reductivelisteningislisteningfor.Itreduces　　everythingdowntowhatsrelevantanditdiscardseverythingthatsnotrelevant.Mentypicallylistenreductively.Sohessaying,Ivegotthisproblem.Hessaying,Heresyoursolution.Thanksverymuch.Next.Thatsthewaywetalk,rightguys?Expansivelistening,ontheotherhand,islisteningwith,notlisteningfor.Itsgotnodestinationinmind.Itsjustenjoyingthejourney.Womentypicallylistenexpansively.Ifyoulookatthesetwo,eyecontact,facingeachother,　　possiblybothtalkingatthesametime.Men,ifyougetnothingelseoutofthistalk,practiceexpansivelistening,andyoucantransformyourrelationships.　　认真倾听是一种主动技能。普通地听是被动的，而倾听却是要花功夫的。倾听是处理声音与声音之间的关系。它也是一种与生俱来的能力。比如，你考虑过倾听也有不同的姿势，以便你接收声音吗？看以下两个例子。删减性的倾听是有“选择”的听。它会只关注你想要知道的东西，而忽略无关紧要的内容。男人通常会删减性的倾听。比如一个人说：“我有个问题。”另一个人说：“这是你的答案。多谢。下一位。”这就是我们谈话的方式，对吧，男士们？而另外一种，扩展性的倾听是“无目的”，“无选择”的。听你脑海里并没有明确的目标而只是享受听的过程。女人通常会扩展性的倾听。看看这两位，面对面，保持眼神交流，可能两人同时都在说话。男士们，如果你们谈话时觉得索然无味，试试扩展性的倾听，或许可以改善你们的关系。　　ThefirstreallybighealthissueisawordthatMurraySchafercoined:schizophonia.Itsadislocationbetweenwhatyouseeandwhatyouhear.So,wereinvitingintoourlivesthevoicesofpeoplewhoarenotpresentwithus.Ithinktheressomethingdeeplyunhealthyaboutlivingallthetimeinschizophonia.Thesecondproblemthatcomeswith　　headphoneabuseiscompression.Wesquashmusictofititintoourpocketandthereisacostattachedtothis.Listentothis--thisisanuncompressedpieceofmusic.Andnowthe　　samepieceofmusicwith98%ofthedataremoved.Idohopethatsomeofyouatleastcanhearthedifferencebetweenthosetwo.Thereisacostofcompression.Itmakesyoutiredandirritabletohavetomakeupallofthatdata.Yourehavingtoimagineit.Itsnotgoodforyouinthelongrun.Thethirdproblemwithheadphonesisthis:deafness.　　第一大严重的健康问题，根据MurraySchafer的话说，就是“幻听”。这是一种错乱，使你看到的和听到的并不一致。所以，我们的生活中，就多了一些不在我们身边的人发出的声音