「对话力」--从幼稚园就该开始培养的公民软实力.pdfVIP

C P Y E N F O U N D A T I O N -- 01 2013 January 2013 Dialogue Newsletter 201110-11 Philip Thomas- 2012Jorie the floor misbehavior --, 201212 ….…… / - , ICF ACC , , ( ICF )(ICFTaiwan) Dialogue: Cultivating Citizen’s Soft Power from Kindergarten up In October 2011 the CP Yen Foundation translated the book “the Magic of Dialogue: Transforming Conflict in to Cooperation”, and in November invited International Dialogue Practioner, Mr. Philip Thomas to lead a “Dialogic Change Workshop”. Reading the book and participating in the workshop have opened up my learning journey into experiencing dialogue. In 2012 Jorie conducted workshops with a couple universities and shard with the young students the meaning of dialogue; as an assistant to the process I gradually became increasingly willing to listen without distraction and to sharpen my senses by lightly suspending my own opinions. A person’s dialogue capacities are similar to one’s values - hard to see in daily trivial activities, yet they make a big difference in critical and conflict moments. For example, in 2012 a student from a well-known university cursed the Ministry of Education and became a notorious public figure in the media. Even though I don’t agree that the student should have been given the floor to speak, yet if he had spoken in a way demonstrating good dialogic skill, speaking objectively and powerfully, then I would have momentarily tolerated his misbehavior. To dialogue one needs four qualities: listening, suspending assumptions, inquiry and advocacy. The first two are qualities of one’s internal mindset and are not directly visible, but if these two qualities are absent, then inquiry degrades into questioning and advocacy degrades into criticism and blaming. In the workplace, dia