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亲爱,那些不是挑衅话语 　　中年危机,也称“灰色中年”,一般高发在39至50岁的中年人身上。从广义上来讲,“中年危机”指的是人们在中年这一人生阶段在事业、健康、家庭婚姻等方面可能经历各种关卡和危机。大多数人到了中年都处于“上有老,下有小”的生活局面,得应对家庭里和事业上遭遇的各种棘手问题,压力实在不小。 　　下文讲述的是美国女作家劳拉?曼森的丈夫遭遇“中年危机”后,他们之间出现的“中年情感危机”插曲,从中可见两人曲折的心路历程。值得一提的是,在走出“中年危机”困境之后,曼森的丈夫鼓励她把他们的故事写出来和大家分享,于是曼森在《纽约时报》上讲述了她的这段情感波折…… 　　 　　Let’s 1)say you have what you believe to be a healthy marriage. You’re still friends and lovers after spending more than half of your lives together. The dreams you set out to achieve in your 20s―gazing into each other’s eyes in candlelit city 2)bistros when you were single and skinny―have for the most part come true. Two decades later you have the 20 acres of land, the farmhouse, the children, the dogs and horses. You’re the parents you said you would be, full of love and guidance. You’ve done it all: Disneyland, camping, Hawaii, Mexico, city living, 3)stargazing. 　　 　　Sure, you have your 4)marital issues, but on the whole you feel so self-satisfied about how things have worked out that you would never, in your5)wildest nightmares, think you would hear these words from your husband one fine summer day: “I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did. I’m moving out. The kids will understand. They’ll want me to be happy.” 　　 　　His words came at me like a speeding fist, like a 6)sucker punch, yet somehow in that moment I was able to 7)duck. And once I’d recovered and composed myself, I managed to say, “I don’t 8)buy it.” 　　 　　He drew back in surprise. Apparently he’d expected me to burst into tears, to rage at him, to threaten him with a 9)custody battle. Or beg him to change his mind. So he turned 10)mean. “I don’t like what you’ve become.” 　　 　　11)Gut-12)wrenching pause. How could he say such a thing? That’s when I really wanted to fight. To rage. To cry. But I didn’t. Instead, a 13)shroud of calm 14)enveloped me, and I repeated those words: “I don’t buy it.” 　　 　　You see, I’d recently committed to a non-negotiable understanding with myself. I’d committed to “Th