THE TERMINATION OF RELATIONSHIPS的关系的终止.pptVIP

THE TERMINATION OF RELATIONSHIPS RELATIONSHIP DISSOLUTION: HOW IT HAPPENS PASSING AWAY SUDDEN DEATH PHASES OF RELATIONSHIP DISSOLUTION INTRA-PSYCHIC PHASE DYADIC PHASE SOCIAL PHASE GRAVE-DRESSING PHASE COMMUNICATING DURING RELATIONSHIP DISSOLUTION WHO INITIATES IT? DISTANCING DISASSOCIATING “STRATEGIES” CAUSES OF RELATIONSHIP DISSOLUTION BREAKDOWN IN COMMUNICATION LOSS OF SHARED GOALS/INTERESTS DESIRE FOR INDEPENDENCE SEXUAL AND/OR INTIMACY PROBLEMS ROLE STRAIN MONEY CHILDREN INFIDELITY/LOYALTY ISSUES ALCOHOL/DRUG ABUSE DIVORCE DIVORCE FACTS APPROXIMATELY 50% OF BOTH FIRST AND SECOND MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE USUALLY AT LEAST ONE CHILD IS INVOLVED USUALLY IT IS A HIGH STRESS PROCESS FOR ALL CONCERNED COMMON COMMUNICATION PATTERNS DURING DIVORCE RECIPROCITY OF “BAD” (OFTEN PETTY) ACTS POWER PLAYS: “I WIN, YOU LOSE” COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN: Arguing in front of them Explaining about “Daddy Mommy” Not talking to them about what’s happening PRIMARY CONCERNS/TOPICS FOCUS ON: Division of resources Future relationships Visitation rights custody (if children /or pets involved) CONSTRUCTIVE PATTERNS OF COMMUNICATION ARE POSSIBLE AND SOME COUPLES MANAGE QUITE WELL. UNFORTUNATELY, THIS IS NOT THE NORM. JEALOUSY WHAT IS JEALOUSY? A Learned Reaction To A Loss Or Threat Of Loss Can Be Real or Imagined WHO IS MOST LIKELY TO BE JEALOUS? Insecure People People Who Have a High Dependency On The Relationship People Who Strongly Support A Value System Involving Possessiveness of Private Property Total Togetherness in Relationships WHAT ARE WE JEALOUS ABOUT? Time; Persons; Situations/Opporunities IS JEALOUSY ALWAYS BAD? Mild Forms of Jealousy Can Show Concern Caring for the Relationship Too Often It Involves Unhealthy Responses Such as Planning Revenge; Sinking into Depression; Wallowing in Self-Pity; etc. COPING WITH JEALOUSY Communicate in Ways To Develop Self-Esteem/Self-Confidence For Yourself Your Partner Talk To Your Partner About Expectations, Assumptions, Feelings Rel