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爸爸妈妈――爱你在心口难开翻译：小狐 人们常说，父爱如山，母爱如海，家便是那山与海之间的小小港湾。正值一年一度的母亲节，一位有多年社工经验的专家给我们讲述青少年与父母的相处之道。也许以下所说的不一定适合你的情况，但你是否也受到一点启发呢？ Why Do We Fight So Much? The clothes you wear. The food you eat. The color of your bedroom walls. Where you go and how you get there. The people you hang out[打发时间] with. What time you go to bed. What do these things have in common, youre asking? They’re just a few examples of the many hundreds of things that your parents controlled for you when you were a child. As a kid, you didn’t have a say in much of what went on; your parents made decisions about everything from the cereal[谷类食品] you ate in the morning to the pajamas[睡衣] you wore at night. And its a good thing, too――kids need this kind of protection and assistance, because they aren’t mature[成熟的] enough to take care of themselves and make careful decisions on their own. But eventually, kids grow up and become teens. And part of being a teen is developing your own identity[特性，身份]――one that is separate from the identities of your parents. It’s totally normal for teens to create their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life; it’s what prepares them for adulthood. But as you change and grow into this new person who makes his or her own decisions, your parents may have a difficult time adjusting[适应]. They arent used to the new you yet ?they only know you as the kid who had everything decided for you and didn’t mind. In most families, it’s this adjustment that can cause a lot of fighting between teens and parents. You want to cover your walls with posters; they don’t understand why you don’t like your Sesame Street注 wallpaper anymore. You think its OK to hang out at the mall[商场] every day after school; they would rather that you play a sport. Clashes[冲突] like these are very common between teens and parents ?teens get angry because they feel parents dont respect them and aren’t giving them enough space to do what they like, while parents get angry because they aren’t used