Conflict Management - Utah Education Network冲突管理-犹他州教育网.ppt

Conflict Management Arguing -- Is usually a battlefield for a bigger issue. Fear -- losing their spouse. -- losing their home. -- losing self respect. Objectives / Standards: The student will be able to: Identify methods of conflict resolution as related to marriage. Identify common sources of marital conflict. Apply conflict resolution and problem-solving strategies to resolve common scenarios of marital conflicts. Do you ever use… Extreme or irrational tactic to gain your point (slamming doors, stomping around)? Hurt remarks to have the last word (sarcasm, name calling)? The Silent treatment Withdraw to a safe distance because you do not like to argue? Store up grudges and use later (revenge)? My way or no way attitude? Get angry, criticize, or some other aggressive behavior? Give in; “I guess you are right”, submissive behavior to avoid conflict. Deny or pretend that “everything is okay If you answered “Yes” to any of the above you are not “fighting fair” and you are creating an interaction pattern of “I win, you lose”. Failing to resolve a conflict situation causes: Married couples to withdraw and create emotional distance between them. Pile up of differences Irritations and resentments. Play Garth Brooks Song “We bury the hatchet, but not the handle”. Myths or Misconceptions About Conflict: Harmony is normal and conflict is abnormal. Conflict is the result of personality differences. Conflict and disagreements are the same. Get into pairs and make a list of things that may cause conflicts (arguments). Next look at your interviews were there any other causes of conflict? Do Not Trifle Over Trivia The following items are typical behaviors that create stress between people. Which way the toilet paper rolls. Turning down page corners instead of using a bookmark. Eating or not eating in bed. Leaving damp washcloths scrunched in a lump, or wringing them out and spreading them to dry. Putting the VCR tapes away or leaving them on top of the VCR. Whether o