Language Barrier and Bridge - Riverside Community College 语言障碍与桥-滨江社区学院.pptVIP

The Language of Responsibility It Statements Replaces the I with It “It bothers me when you are late” vs. “I am worried when you are late” The Language of Responsibility But Statements Cancels preceding statement “You are a great person, but I think we should see other people.” The Language of Responsibility Questions Hidden Agenda “What are you doing on Friday night? The Language of Responsibility You Language Expresses the judgment of the other person. “You are such a slob!” The Language of Responsibility We Language Speaks for the other person. “We aren’t keeping this place clean are we?!” “We need a solution to this problem.” QUESTION… What are the major differences between men and women in conversation? MEN WOMEN Music, current events, sports, business Gossip about sports, media personalities Personal/Domestic subjects, relationships, family, health Gossip about family, friends Gender: CONTENT MEN WOMEN Make conversation fun, joking and good natured teasing “Like” same sex conversation Feelings, relationships, personal problems Talk IS the essence of relationships “Need” same sex conversation Gender: REASONS MEN WOMEN Interrupt Use judgmental adjectives “Reading can be a drag” Direct, succinct, task oriented Ask more questions Use more intensive verbs “he’s REALLY cute” Indirect, elaborate Gender: CONVERSATIONAL STYLE Example: Language Men vs. Women The woman language translator - YouTube Your new Skill: “I” Language Describe how that behavior makes you feel. Describe the other person’s behavior (proof) Talk about some consequences as a result of that behavior for you. I Language Example I get embarrassed [feeling] when you talk bad about my bad grades in front of our friends [other person’s behavior]. I’m afraid that they will think I’m stupid [consequence]. Example: in one study, French Americans were asked to describe a set of pictures.