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人际交往1（Interpersonal skills 1） Interpersonal communication! Fear the real psychology behind rejection On interpersonal communication, will indeed make some people crazy, too honest may offend people, too deferential get yourself in trouble. Who do we not please other peoples psychology? Everyone was courting the parents, please peer, please the teacher, please the authority figures of such relations experience the benefits: please be praised, valued and rewarded, not to be blamed, not to be blamed and punished. This is the growth of the helpless, but also to become a social person needs ah. To judge the psychological maturity of a person in social contact depends on whether you can say no freely to others, whether you can ask others to help yourself or not, and whether you can accept the rejection of others. It takes confidence and courage to say no and accept and be rejected. The state of mind that refuses to refuse or asks freely, and is afraid of being rejected by others, is called rejection sensitivity in psychology. Such people, their interpersonal relationship looks good, he is always eager to help people, good reputation, others like to find him trouble, but inner suffering, only to swallow their own. This is the typical social anxiety of dying for a face, living for a living. Please others has a double meaning: one is utilitarian, namely through the initiative to please others and achieve their purpose; two is defensive, an emotional Union through to please others, not establish the object of attack, has generated a relaxed environment for yourself. So, to please others has its positive effect. Excessive please will bring people endless troubles. The fear of saying no is a psychological projection of someone elses own projection. Because say no may not hurt others, in essence, is that their hearts can not stand being rejected, so I think (outside projection) others can not stand, refused to dare to refuse others. Fear of no inner complex mainly comes from the